These are the divorce questions people ask too late. Yes, you can date while separated. No, you shouldn’t, if custody is on the line. No, everything isn’t automatically 50/50. But timing, titles, and intent matter more than people think. No, your spouse can’t just move the kids out of state. And yes, doing it anyway can backfire fast. Divorce isn’t just emotional. It’s procedural. And the people who skip strategy usually pay for it in court. #CaliforniaDivorce #CustodyStrategy #CustodyCourt

Never say these words in a custody battle. I’ve seen parents lose their case because of them. “I don’t care what the order says.” That tells the judge you won’t follow court orders. “The kids don’t want to see the other parent.” Courts don’t want you speaking for the children. “He can see them when he pays support.” Custody and support are separate legal issues. “She’s a terrible mother.” Character attacks hurt you. Facts help you. And never say, “I’ll represent myself.” Family court isn’t a con

Here’s why high-conflict spouses accuse you first , and how to flip it. Most people hear false allegations and spiral. But experienced litigators hear strategy. There are two kinds of accusations: 1️⃣ Projection — they accuse you of what they are doing 2️⃣ Forecasting — they reveal how they plan to attack later That’s not random. That’s intel. The winning move isn’t arguing. It’s cleaning up anything that can be twisted, locking down evidence, and building defense early. People who wait until co